All Hail The Queen

I sometimes wonder if readers have noticed the absence of a queen in this fairytale. There have been many posts about my Princes, and King, and super heroes, and monsters, and a little teddy bear, but never a Queen. 

The Queen-Princess relationship is one I have struggled with for many years. It's a struggle I've often wanted to blog about, but she is a loyal reader, and I hate hurting feelings. I know though, it's a struggle that comes naturally, and is relatable amongst the vast majority of Queens and Princesses. It's one of the reasons I feared having a baby girl, because I personally am not able to envision that relationship transitioning from parent-child to adult-adult very smoothly. Are there mothers and daughters that survived the teenage years, and remained best friends throughout it all? 

We are not best friends, my mother and I. That's a simple fact. Ta da! Lol. She is not my best friend, and she's not the best person I've ever known in my entire life, but that doesn't hinder my claim that she was the best mommy. Ever. 

Regardless of the ways relationships inevitably change as we all become our own people, you would have a very hard time trying to convince me that your mommy was even a smidgen better then MY mommy, when we were growing up. 

My mommy was Christmas and Easter and Valentines Day and Halloween. She was the tooth fairy, and the barf-cleaner-upper. She packed our lunches right through high school, and hosted the greatest Birthday parties. She helped with the homework, drove to dance classes and soccer games, planned the family vacations. She was gentle, and then angry when she needed to be. She loved her kids fiercely and unconditionally. As a kid, these were all the things I loved her for. As a mother myself now, these are the things I finally appreciate the way they deserve to be appreciated. 

This is my very first Mother's Day. Imagine that! Naturally I'm feeling an overwhelming amount of excitement and thankfulness, and wonderment for all that my life has become since receiving the title, 'Mom'. But as excited as I am for myself, I've found myself thinking far more about my own mommy these last few days. 

I can not say that she is my best friend now, but I can without a doubt say that during the years we needed mothering, the Queen in this story was the very kind of mother I want to be for my baby. And I can never thank her enough for being that mother.